The only kind of true love possible is 'unconditional'. Yet, it needs to be nurtured like an infant all the time. Over time we start demanding and taking things for granted; thinking that our love has grown and matured over the years and might not need as much attention.
After Arushi was born, a friend of mine had caught me referring to my romantic life as a matter of the past. I was lucky to have taken her cue and have worked to bring back the silly spark in my relationship with my husband. I call it silly as I do things like send him a ‘miss you’ sms; add a line on his to- do list ‘Call Jaina’ (he does call me when he reads it and we just exchange a giggling hi); go for drives after Arushi sleeps etc. Its all pretty teeny; but it works for me ( I say me and not us as according to Kal (my husband) the spark had never dimmed)
Recently, a close friend of mine confided to me that she was seeing a marriage counselor. I am a little shaken-up. This is a person whom I have seen to be head-over-heals in love with her husband. I think that the fact that they recognized (and acted on it) that their love needs extra nurturing- itself was proof of their love. I am sure they will come out of this situation with a stronger bond and understanding.
I am sure we will all have our share of troubles and tests ( some will have a tougher ride then others); but the key is preserve and nurture. Lets not forget that!
